It’s the last day of June and that means one thing. I’m older.
When you’re a teenager or in your 20s you really do think “wow, I’ve arrived”. But you haven’t. You’re a
n idiot. fool.
The crazy thing is this; I still feel like I’m 20 in my mind. Some days I cannot grasp the speed at which my life has raced by. I recently told some moms on a Facebook thread who were dying in the throws of their toddlers, preschoolers and the mayhem of it all: ” The days are so so so long….but the years go by so fast.” It’s true. Here we are. 44.
So, 44 things that I have learned:
1. Convictions rarely change, but opinions do. And opinions should.
2. Little kids are cuter now that my kids have grown.
3. Spanking isn’t the best way to discipline your kids. Really, on this side of things…..there’s better ways. Most of the time.
4. Nude camps and beaches totally make sense now. Because no one cares after 40.
5.Not eating dessert every day does not keep you from gaining weight. So, eat the pie! Buy the ice cream! Live!
6. Moms who don’t have hobbies and passions are moms who go literally half-way to crazy land when their kids grow up. Really moms, get a life outside of your kids. You’ll thank me for it later.
7. You don’t have to have lots of friends, but you need to have good friends. Quality vs Quantity.
8. I will never be done decorating my house. And that’s okay.I will also never wear the same clothes for 40 years. Right? Right.
9. Sometimes your cousins are your closest family. I think they’re God’s gift- similar history with different perspective.
10. People’s stories matter more than your opinion of their stories.
11. I’m going to be the best grandma. Watch me.
12. I have less than 44 things to say but I’m going to finish this list on the principle of the matter.
13. Principles matter more to me than lists.
14. I have an opinion on almost every subject. And if I don’t have an opinion it’s because I know nothing of the subject. This makes me a hoot at parties.
15. I’m not really a hoot. I have never been a hoot. I learned after 40 to be okay with not being a hoot.
16. My husband loves my hooters. And that’s a hoot.
17. Hoot is the dumbest word.
18. Right now I’m losing about half of you. Totally okay with that.
19. My kids think I’m weird. I’m just trying to teach them the value of being an individual. Also, I’m lame.
20. I only like the King James Bible version for reading the Psalms. Also, the word “dung”. Because dung in the Bible is modern man’s “shit” and seriously, that makes me giggle.
21. In my 44 years I have learned that you actually don’t need to agree with everything in the Bible. Isn’t that fascinating? It doesn’t mean it didn’t happen or isn’t true- You just don’t have to agree with it! Freeing! Also…..life lesson. See #22
22. I can disagree with you and we can still get along. Also fascinating.
23. I would live poor in the country any day rather than rich in the city. City folks have no idea what they’re missing.
24. I miss singing in a choir.
25. There is no perfect school for your kids and every school has at least one teacher who probably shouldn’t be teaching. It’s better you know this now so there are no surprises or disappointments. Again, thank me later.
26. I truly believe that a large chunk of my fibromyalgia pain is exacerbated by over-peopling and extroverting. I’m totally serious.
27. I wish I had known when I was young that I was not shy, just introverted. It would have helped me so much.
28. Our parents did the best they could with what they knew, but they didn’t know everything.
29. You should always go with your gut. Your gut is your guide.
30. Being an adult with responsibilities can really suck but I would never ever want to go back to being a teenager.
31. Buying fresh flowers every week is a must. Don’t even look at the price. Just stop and smell the roses.
32. There will always, always, ALWAYS be someone who thinks you’re wrong. Some people just like to be contrary.
33. Growing older makes you care less and less about what others think. It is one of the beautiful gifts of aging.
34. Having our kids young was one of the smartest things we have done in our marriage. Here we are- mid 40s and we can leave home for pretty much any length of time without stocking the pantry or fridge. It’s awesome.
35. I have learned that I was not a great mom, but I did my best at the time. I wouldn’t go back and change things. If I didn’t mess up, I wouldn’t have learned that I was wrong.
36. All those years growing up with parents who listened to the weather and the news daily, sometimes hourly, made me learn about the world, politics and humanity. Some call it street smarts. I call it socially smart.
37. #20 is the best, right? *shit*
38. Most people are just trying to live their lives, mind their business and do right. Most people. Think about that the next time you get annoyed with someone.
39. I love, love, LOVE reading other people’s stories. I would rather read about someone’s life than watch a movie. I am completely fascinated by the story of humanity.
40. Friends are the best. They really are. When you find friends that get you, expect nothing from you, challenge you, love you, care about you but never berate you……that’s the best gift there is.
41. Having a spouse who is your best friend is how people stay married so long. I’ve watched it, learned from others and I’m living it. Also, marriage is better after 15 years.
42. You cannot have everything you want. Get over it.
43. Integrity of character is a good goal for life.
44. Naps are king.
I’ve learned a few more things but this is a good place to start. I wonder what I will write when I’m 88? Nude beaches really are awesome? :)