Day 2~ Introverts vs. Extroverts-Who is Better on Facebook?

The answer to the above question is: BOTH!

You need to know who you are. It matters if you are an introvert or an extrovert. Your friends and family also need to know. And they need to understand why you are the way you are, why you post or don’t post and when they need to push in or back off.  It matters.

If you have never done a test to find out what type of personality you are, do it now. It is SO freeing and so incredibly enlightening.

This is a really good test but you need at least 20 minutes for it.

http://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

Once you have figured out who YOU are, take the test as if you were your spouse, your friend, your parent….it won’t be as accurate as if they did it but it will open your eyes to how differently you see things.  And it will help you to understand who they are and how they think.

I am an INFP~ Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceptive.  Big words.  Basically, I’m an idealist. I internalize a lot. LIKE, A LOT.  You have no idea what goes on in this mind!

http://oddlydevelopedtypes.com/content/3-signs-you-are-infp

If you want a really simplistic explanation of the difference between extroverts and introverts , it is this:

Introverts are energized by solitary activities. Browsing the web, reading a book, soaking in the tub, watching a movie, doing a craft…alone.  WE thrive on it.  We are ENERGIZED by not being around others.  That doesn’t mean we’re necessarily shy or social misfits.  It doesn’t mean we don’t like people or that we are recluses.  It just means we NEED time every day to do something on our own and we are overwhelmed and exhausted when we have to be socially active all the time.  This is why we love the internet. Words are powerful. We have the ability to share what we are feeling, thinking, seeing and doing without the awkward and sometimes draining part of small talk and banter.  The internet has given us a platform and a voice.

Extroverts are energized by people.  They love hugging and hanging out. They want to be where the action is and they want conversation even if it’s surface and insignificant.  Extroverts are usually  bored if there is no one around them.  They tend to think on their feet and have a tendency to be labeled “born leaders” because of this trait.  You usually don’t have to guess what an extrovert is feeling or thinking because they will tell you.

This is a funny, yet accurate description of extroverts:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/jessicamisener/frustrating-things-about-being-an-extrovert

As you can see, in the world of Facebook introverts and extroverts would likely post statuses and comments very differently.

For an introvert, they would think long and hard before posting what they’re doing and why.

And extrovert won’t think twice about it….EXCEPT for the fact that many extroverts find Facebook pointless. They much prefer in-person physical contact and socialization.

An introvert will find Facebook and other online communities to be a life-line of sorts because they can pick and choose the conversation and how they respond to it.  They won’t typically choose small talk but they will engage more often because it’s more comfortable.

An extrovert may assume that an introvert’s posts are a tell-all of their life.  But they are coming from the viewpoint of an extrovert that may share whatever is happening in the moment.

Is this all very confusing?

It really isn’t.

Just suffice to say that you cannot assume by what one person shares or doesn’t share, that they are telling you the whole story.  One of the dangers of Facebook is the assumption that because someone posts daily you have a handle on their life.  More often than not(and this is from an introvert who is online daily), what is shared is barely scraping the surface.

I have had to block some people simply because they have assumed our online relationship is an equal sharing of all that is and all that will be.  They have assumed they know enough about me to give me personal advice on things they know nothing about.  This is the danger of an extrovert’s viewpoint on an introvert’s life.

We are all different and just because you share a lot of your thoughts and feelings does not mean that when I share, I am equal in the sharing of my thoughts and feelings.

If this post has rambled, it is because this is a HUGE topic and I only wanted to bring a bit of light to a dark corner of Facebook personalities.  Know who you are and respect that your friends and family are not like you when it comes to sharing on line.

These “talking heads” will help you to see all the personalities out there: https://www.cpp.com/contents/type-heads.aspx?type=infp

For more on Facebook 101(31 Day series for October) , click HERE. 

For my Day 2 post from last year on Redeeming Christmas, click HERE.

And for my other blog on Thrifting and Painting, click HERE. 

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2 thoughts on “Day 2~ Introverts vs. Extroverts-Who is Better on Facebook?

  1. Thank you, thank you, thank you for the link to the personality test! I have done so many MBTI tests and yet none of the descriptions ever seemed to fit me quite right, until this one. It fits me perfectly and I now definitely know my type! Finally! I am going to print it out and show it to the people who just don’t get me.

    I will also be giving them the link so that they can complete it too. By seeing how accurate it is for themselves, they then won’t be able to dispute that what I have been telling them about myself is true. They will also finally see exactly what the true meanings of introvert and extrovert are, rather than just thinking they are synonyms for shy and outgoing.

    I will also be explaining that both introverts and extroverts can be shy, as I cannot stand that misconception . By the way, I’m an ISTJ if you wanted to know. ;-D

    This blog is excellent Juanita. Please keep up the good work, we need to keep getting the message out there.

  2. Hi Juanita, I love this blog post! I actually just finished watching a video that does a great job of explaining why introverts should be celebrated in society. I can relate to a lot of what she talks about, and like you, I’m also an INFP!

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