Earlier today I posted about being insincere. I deleted most of it and reworked it to say what I actually mean. You see, I screw up too and I don’t have this figured out yet either.
I unfairly picked on “Happy Birthday” when in fact it’s truly an act of manners and politeness. So I’m sorry. And no, I don’t analyze people’s intent when they say Happy Birthday to me.
BUT, I also feel that it is just as sincere to NOT say Happy Birthday if someone isn’t feeling it. Truthfully, I get maybe 25% of my friend list sending me birthday greetings and I think that’s pretty typical. Do I think the other 75% of the people are lame or rude? Nope. Doesn’t bother me a bit. But I am thankful for those who do comment.
The truth is, I have had some very negative experiences on Facebook with family members and friends who rarely comment to me directly but have been disingenuous with a comment and then gossiped, lied and been passive-aggressive with me and my information.
This has, unfortunately, happened to me on several occasions and therefore I have become extra vigilant about being real, sincere, and also intentional with my comments and posts. I suppose that negative experiences drive me to warn others more than positive experiences motivate me to encourage at times. For that, I apologize.
It’s really hard to gauge someone’s sincerity online if you don’t know them offline.
I just love a good back and forth conversation. I love the silly moments and the fun that Facebook has brought into our lives. I love connecting and conversing. I like dissecting situations and analyzing books, scripture, relationships and words with friends via my inbox. To me, these are the advantages of Facebook above all others. I just don’t have the time, patience or energy for someone chiming in with a glib, tasteless, inappropriate, or clueless comment.
Be sincere. Be present. Be intentional.
Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight,
a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.
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